By Jason Lim
โMy husband doesnโt respond to me when I complain to him about something,โ a middle-aged woman grumbles to Venerable Pomnyun, a well-known Korean Seon (Zen) Buddhist monk who is famous for his ability to deliver profound life lessons in simple, sometimes startling ways.
โDoes a dog answer you when you ask it a question?โ Venerable Pomnyun responds with his question. โNo, of course not. Thatโs why itโs easier to raise a dog. You donโt ask a dog whether it wants to eat or not. You just feed it, and itโs grateful for it.
โSo, think of your husband as a dog that you are raising, and you will have no problems at all. I mean, your husband goes to the bathroom by himself, right?โ
โYeah โฆโ the questioner agrees sheepishly.