āThe main reason, though, is because I was sick of hearing about, reading about, seeing how everything I was buying was having these … really terrible impacts on other people around the world and on the biosphere.
āEvery time I went to the shops, I had to choose between a bad product and a worse product, and it was just doing my head in.
āWhen I discovered that some people have chosen to live without money in the Western world, I thought, āOh, maybe I can do that tooā.
āI wrote a list of what I actually needed to survive and that took about 10 minutes. I thought that was going to be difficult but it was very easy, of course.ā
She said she realised her principal needs were simply accommodation and food.
āWhat I needed to survive was not a lot, and I just started ticking off the list.
āOnce I had worked those things out, I gave myself a year to prepare.ā
Once her daughter Amy was finished with school, she gave her the last of her money and began living her new life.
Living off the land
Surviving without accommodation was the first challenge she faced in her new moneyless life.
āI was living in the country just outside of Lismore, and I knew some friends of mine lived down the road. And they had a big farm, and they were growing food in a market garden.
āI thought … they might need a hand.ā
When she spoke to them about her experiment of living without money, they were initially confused but warmed to the idea, and she stayed there for just over a year, Nemeth said.
āIt was a really lovely existence for a time.ā
During this time, she said she discovered the concept of the āgift economyā.
āItās like paying it forward. You do something for someone else without the expectation of something directly in return.
āThe gift economy is about giving as you can, giving freely.
āItās beautiful. Itās a lovely way to be if you can do it.ā
āWe actually are, all of us, involved in the gift economy. Because we all give without the expectation of return. We give presents, gifts, we give our time to help people out… In our monetary economy, itās just a very small part.ā
In 2016 she moved into town because she wanted to get more involved with her community, and hitchhiking in and out of town was not always efficient, Nemeth said.
āIn town Iāve had to do a bit more bartering, which I find quite strange.ā
Nemeth moved in with her best friend Sharon after her husband died and āhelped her get back on her feetā, she said.
Once her friend sold her house, which was always the plan, Nemethās daughter Amy moved in to Sharonās new place, and was shortly followed by Nemeth herself.
āI came to dog-sit and help to look after the dogs and hang out here in 2018, and then after that I kind of stayed and we worked out an arrangement.
āSharon just said, āLook, I donāt want to do the gardening, but I want a garden. So can you just take over the gardening for me?ā
āIāve also been managing the household and making food, and doing things to reduce the householdās consumption and the need for them to buy things.ā
Initially, she had been nervous to tell people about her idea to go moneyless.
But when she told her Sharon, she said it sounded great and that it was āexactly the kind of thingā she would expect from Nemeth.
āSince then itās been great, Iāve had nothing but support from friends and family,ā she said.
The health challenge
Nemeth said she always knew health would eventually pose a challenge to the moneyless life.
āPhysically Iām okay, but I do have bad teeth, so I had a feeling my teeth would let me down and Iād need to go and get some dentistry. And I couldnāt figure out how to do that without money.
āIām just about reaching my 10-year mark, and once Iāve reached that nice round figure, Iām going to start a GoFundMe campaign and get a dental fund going.
āSo I am going to have a hiatus in living without money for a while while I get my teeth fixed, and then Iām going to continue with this as long as I can.ā
āQuite naive when I first startedā
Things have definitely changed for Nemeth over the 10 years sheās been living this lifestyle.
āI was quite naive when I first started, you know, believing that when people hear about what Iām doing, [theyād] understand why Iām doing it … they would reduce their impacts and not buy so much stuff.
āI had these rose-coloured glasses on, and now I donāt have rose-coloured glasses on anymore.ā
She said she was forced to face the reality that āthings werenāt changing and theyāre not going to changeā.
Nemeth said she was not optimistic about the future.
āNervous is an understatement. I am now what is referred to as ācollapse awareā,ā she said.
āI didnāt know that 10 years ago. I thought it was climate change and that was pretty bad. But I didnāt realise how bad, and I didnāt understand all of the crises we were facing.
āNow I need to grow my community even more, and grow more food and help cushion the fall,ā she said.
āGlobally, I think Iāve been able to inspire a lot of people … through the media, but Iām not sure how much people have been able to take on. You know, itās hard.ā
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